You may be considering counselling if your relationship feels Stuck — when the same arguments seem to repeat no matter how hard you try to resolve them, when emotional distance has started to replace closeness, or when confusing patterns of behaviour leave you feeling frustrated or disconnected.

The very fact that you’re here shows that you care deeply about your relationship and are ready to invest in making it stronger.

Below, I outline my four-step approach, drawing on techniques from Transactional Analysis and Psychodynamic Theory, tailored to meet the unique needs of you and your partner.

​Stage 1: Identify & Acknowledge (Relational & Empathetic)
Creating a safe therapeutic space in which we will gain an understanding of the history of your relationship up until now, and identify the core issues that have brought you to therapy.

When "Loving You" Feels Like "Losing Me"

​Every couple I meet comes in with a story of hope that has curdled into frustration. Perhaps you’re spending evenings in silence, or maybe you’re caught in the same argument loop every week. You look at the person you love and feel a desperate distance, wondering: Why is this so hard?
​My passion is to help you answer that "why." I believe, wholeheartedly, that the problem isn't that you love each other too little; it's that you are often running on old, invisible programming that sabotages your connection in the present. This is where my specific approach—rooted in the power of the relationship itself—comes into play.

​Stage 2: Skill Building & Intervention (Transactional Analysis & Psychodynamic)
​This is where we'll start to work together to improve the vital interpersonal skills that make a relationship, such as communication and conflict resolution. We can start to establish clear goals while identifying the cycles that may be keeping you both from being able to achieve them.

"Unlocking the Code: From Repetition to Repair"

​As a Couples Therapist trained in Transactional Analysis (TA) and Psychodynamic theory, I look past the symptoms and dive into the root cause of your patterns.
​The Psychodynamic Lens: We explore the invisible baggage. We look at the patterns you learned in childhood—the way you learned to ask for love, how you deal with conflict, or what kind of attention you seek. We understand that your earliest relationship blueprints are unconsciously playing out in your marriage today.

​The Transactional Analysis Map: TA gives us a tangible language for what is happening right now. It helps us name the dynamic: Are we speaking from the rational, Adult Ego State, or are we unintentionally triggering each other's reactive Child Ego States? We learn how to spot those destructive 'games' (like 'Yes, But...' or 'Gotcha!') that feel like conflict but are actually predictable patterns.
​When you can name a pattern, you gain the power to change it. We stop blaming each other for the script and start rewriting it together.

​Stage 3: Meeting Goals & Solidifying Changes (The Therapeutic Relationship)
In this important stage you will learn to build trust and safety in one another using tools practiced in session and carried through into home life. Giving you tangible tools for a healthy relationship that can start to flow naturally and stop feeling like a struggle.

"The Therapy Room is Our Safe Laboratory"

​In my view, the most powerful tool for healing is the relational space we build together. I don't see my role as an impartial referee; I am an active, authentic participant in your journey.
​What this means for you:
​Safety is Non-Negotiable: We use tools—like the "I" statement exercises I teach—to create structure. This structure ensures that both of you finally feel safe enough to speak your truth without fear of interruption or attack.
​True Empathy: My job is to truly get both of you. I hold space for your unique reality and your partner’s unique reality. You are both right in your own experience, and my role is to bridge that gap with empathy, not judgment.

​Stage 4: Outcome: The Takeaway & Call to Action
During our last stage, we will create an action plan together that reflects your relationship's unique needs. Sending you forward into life with a clear strategy, confident in your ability to handle future challenges together and keep strengthening your bond as a partnership. 

"Let's Stop Fighting the Current and Start Rowing Together"

​If you feel that you and your partner are two good people caught in a bad cycle - if you’re tired of the same old arguments and longing for a real, deep connection -
Then my commitment to you is to provide the map (TA), the depth (Psychodynamic insight), and the safety (Relational connection) required to make those lasting changes.

​You are not broken. Your relationship is simply waiting for a new, more loving script.
​Ready to rewrite your story?